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Sex Is Good


Yes, that's the title.

Sex is good.

Come on, God said it first. After Eve was created, Adam woke up from his divinely inspired nap and said, “This is at last bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh”. They fit together. At last Adam had found someone that fit him as a partner in this new world. One flesh. They were both naked and felt no shame. What a glorious picture. God looked at all He had created and said that it was “good”. Actually, He concluded that it was “very good!” Which included sex!

So you might be thinking, “but that was before man and woman fell into sin by disobeying God”. True! Now we as sinful humans have at times wrongfully turned sex into a commodity to be used for our own selfish gain. But here is the thing, sex between a married couple like Adam and Eve will always still be what God calls “good”. In God’s eyes, sex is a “good” thing within the confines of marriage. Outside of marriage, it’s not only breaking God’s Law but also fails to lead towards a happy, holy and healthy life.

In Matthew 19, Jesus affirms that this physical, marital, one-flesh union still stands, “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Jesus has no problem with speaking about marriage and sex.

In this month’s Sunday sermon series, “Be Careful”, we have heard a lot from God’s Word about what not to do: do not look at porn, do not have sex before marriage, and do not lust.

Well, then what can you do?

As a married person, enjoy sex with your spouse only, and remember these things along the way:

  • Sex is a gift for married couples to experience earthly pleasure in their true oneness. You do not deserve it, yet you get to enjoy it in marriage. Praise the Lord!
  • Sex is a way to glorify God with your bodies as you connect with your spouse in the most intimate of ways. You glorify God because you are coming together in one flesh versus fulfilling your desires outside of marriage. Do not take it for granted but focus on pleasing your spouse versus only focused on getting your own desires met.
  • Sex does not trump connecting in various other healthy ways with your spouse by listening more, sacrificing much and filling each other’s love languages.

Want to enhance your marriage? I challenge you to dive into one of these books before Valentines day. I pray it will continue to give you an appreciation for your spouse and encourage you in your marriage.

Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

Intimate Issues: Twenty-One Questions Christian Women Ask About Sex by Linda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus 

Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy? by Gary L. Thomas

Sacred Sex: A Spiritual Celebration of Oneness in Marriage by Tim Alan Gardner and‎ Scott M. Stanley

Church, don’t blush too much. It’s fine to say it, “Sex is good”. But more importantly, above all, for time and eternity, keep on saying, “God is good...all the time!”